You are Unique so do not Compare Yourself to Others
By Yvette who blogs at Uplifting and Inspiring Content (https://upliftingandinspiringcontent.com). She is a Positivity Coach and an aspiring Self-Help author who is extremely passionate in empowering other women and herself. The post today is all about her thoughts, tips, and ideas on comparison.
No two human beings are the same so there is no reason for you to compare yourself with another person. Your insecurities will begin when you start comparing yourself with others because all you might see are shortcomings – if at all there are any. Your mind might trick you into believing that others are richer, smarter, more successful, or more beautiful than you.
The peak of comparison is when we try to be someone which we are not. The tendency is that, those who compare themselves with others have ended up trying so hard to be like others. It is high time we learn to appreciate and love our uniqueness and start living and enjoying our own features. Why do we need to compare in the first place when we can just be ourselves?
Below are some reasons why we need to stop comparing ourselves with others:
You are unique
Some of us tend to copy others because we believe we are not good enough. There are times we even go to the extent where we try to gain perfection by imitating or trying to live like others.
Each and everyone is unique in one way or the other. We have gifts and talents that makes us different from other people. He or she does not look better, fitter or is living a better life than you. You will never be at peace or feel fulfilled by comparing yourself to others. We are all unique, and there no perfect human being. Stop wasting time and energy damaging your happiness by comparing yourself to others.
A distraction to your progress
Comparison will limit your progress the moment you start feeding into it by comparing your achievements with someone else. You will abandon your goals and end up not achieving anything. The moment you realise that you are focusing too much on other people, please pause for a moment and remember that everyone you meet is fighting a hidden battle. Just because others are exceptionally good at disguising this battle does not make them any better than you. The fact that you focus on them makes you to spend an unnecessary amount of your time and energy. Invest that time and energy following your own goals and dreams. Isn't it high time you stop wasting your precious time on the life and activities of others? It is not important, and this will not help you at all.
There is no perfect human being
You are beautifully and wonderfully made. You are just you; you will always be you and can never change who you are from within. I have seen some people go in for special surgeries just to look like someone else and end up deforming themselves. Social media has made people to believe that everyone you find there has a perfect life. Celebrities and influencers have made things look like everyone can be like them, yet we really do not know who they are inside except their outward display. We are humans and all of us have our personal problems and challenges that we face daily. Do not damage your happiness and self-esteem because you are looking for perfection. No one goes through life without having a hard time.
You may end up being jealous and resentful
When you compare your life with that of others, you focus on the strengths of others and your weaknesses or your lack of achievements and their achievements. Such a way of thinking is not fair and will usher in doubts which will make you lose your self-confidence. Once you are fair in your comparison, you will see that you are better than some and worse than others which is life.
Such comparisons may lead you to become jealous which will lead you to resenting people, some of whom you may not even know. Do not focus on what every other person achieved or how much everyone will achieve in the long run. Just focus on yourself and make each day count.
Don’t lose sight of your achievements
When you compare yourself with others, you will find it difficult to accept your own achievements. You will fall easily into the trap where you may never be able to see your own accomplishments. Why not focus on what you have instead of looking at what you do not have. Switch the focus on yourself and do something that will help you. You can do this by learning to appreciate who you are and what you have. The moment you compare with others, you might see your achievements as if they are too small. Remember to keep a record of your own achievements for it will give you the confidence you need to see how far you have achieved your goals.
You welcome depression
Once you start comparing yourself to others, you dampen your mood. You start believing that life is difficult, and you feel miserable. The moment you start comparing your life with others, it becomes difficult to stop unless you make a conscious effort towards changing your mindset.
Life has never been fair and will never be. Some people were born with certain privileges than others. Regardless of what advantages they have, you should focus on your own goals and what you want to accomplish. Acknowledge that you are incomparable and improve on yourself to become someone better or the person you so desire. Know your self-worth, work on what you are not good or happy with. There is none like you and that is your superpower. You can never be compared to others because you are so unique. Focus your energy, time, and work on yourself rather than trying to be like someone else.
Thanks for reading and would love to hear your thoughts on the comments section below.
By Yvette Kaba
Founder/Chief Empowerment Officer
Uplifting & Inspiring Content